Several months ago this blog by Seth Godin resonated deeply. Each one of us has a unique lived experience, and that lived experience informs our quilt making experience. Here’s the post (follow the link for more Seth!)
Most people can’t resist a mirror. It makes the wait for an elevator more palatable, and we can’t help checking–how do I look?
In many ways, though, this is futile, because we can never know how we look through other people’s eyes.
No one else has lived your life, heard all of your jokes, experienced your disappointments, listened to the noise in your head. As a result, no one else sees you (and your actions) quite the way you do.
And, to magnify the disconnect, every single person has their own narrative, so even when two people see you at the same time, they have different interpretations of what just happened, what was just said.
The same goes for brands and organizations. No one has experienced your brand or your product the way you have. They don’t know about the compromises and choices that went into it. They don’t understand the competitive pressures or the mis-steps either.
Even the best quality mirror tells you very little. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to focus on this sort of grooming if you want to understand what customers or friends are going to see. Far better to watch what they do.
(But yes, you do have a little green thing stuck in your teeth). – Seth Godin
Purchasing and keeping the Lie limits our ability to make changes in our quilting. We’re not good enough, our skills will never improve, the list goes on ad infinitum. Since we’ve purchased the lie there is a sense that we must keep, and use this Lie, until it is no more. The thing is with this particular Lie, the more we use it, the more it grows. The more it grows, the more we believe…see where I’m going here?
Once the purchase is made, it’s hard to return the Lie. It whispers in our ear reminding us of and pointing out those things which, on the surface, look like failures, though in all reality they are not failures. While whatever we’re working on might indeed be crap, it does not mean that we are crap, and does not further mean that everything we create is crap.
Letting go of the Lie
Letting go takes time, and commitment. It requires a gentleness. Here in our house my sweetie got a cactus from a neighbor. This neighbor warned my sweetie that there are very fine spines and they are sharp and hurt like a paper cut. The cactus needs to be treated gently and with respect. I don’t put my hands near it, as I use my hands for quilting and getting pricked with one of these things, I can’t even. So the Lie has these spines that are sharp and lodge in painful places. When dealing with them it’s important to be kind, cautious and caring. The spines will show up in places we don’t expect.
Let’s be kinder
To ourselves. This is, particularly after the last few weeks, one of my big missions both personally and professionally. Kindness matters. Treat yourself with great kindness, this leads to so many great places.
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